Divorce mediation can make the process a lot easier and smoother for both you and your spouse. You retain more control over things like asset division. You work toward a resolution together, rather than fighting in court.
That's all positive, but it does mean that you have to get along with the spouse who will soon be your ex. Both parties must commit to actually working together. That's easier said than done for many divorcing couples. Here are a few tips that can help you:
- Be careful with your online interactions. Don't snoop on their social media profiles or send or post any snarky or combative comments or messages. The "distance" that the internet creates makes it easier to say things you wish you could take back.
- Give each other space when needed. People often cannot get along when they get emotional. It's natural to feel a lot of emotion during a divorce, so know when to take a step back and cool down before working together again.
- Set up some guidelines. You may be married, but the relationship has changed. What ways are you willing to interact? Guidelines are especially important if you have kids and you need to determine your roles in their lives.
- Focus on yourself. It's not as selfish as it sounds. Take time to think about what you want, what you need and what steps you should take to create the life you're after.
As you set out to use divorce mediation, take the time to look into your legal rights and all the options you have.