One of the most important parts of the divorce mediation process is simply being able to have a civil conversation with your spouse about ending the marriage. Mediation keeps you out of court and gives you more control over your decisions, but you have to be able to work together to make those decisions. If you cannot do so, mediation will not succeed.
To that end, here are a few tips that can help:
- Do not lie. Be honest about everything: Your income, the assets you control, what you hope your relationship with the children can be like and everything else. Honesty and trust make this work.
- Never interrupt your spouse. Understand that you both get a chance to speak. Even if you do not agree with what your spouse is saying, give them that chance. You will get yours in return.
- Keep your voice down. Stay calm. Many times, simply the tone of your voice can change how your spouse reacts to what you have to say.
- Think carefully before saying anything. This is a complex process. The outcome will have a major impact on both of your lives. Never say anything lightly.
- Never resort to insults. Do not even imply them. It does not matter if you think your spouse is to blame or you are frustrated to be getting divorced. Leave your emotions behind and focus on the decisions you need to make together.
If you approach mediation with the right mindset, it can make this process easier. Be sure you know all of your legal rights and the steps you need to take.