The divorce process is very individual and different for anyone who has ever been through it. No matter how prepared you may be, it's not uncommon to make mistakes throughout the process. A recent Huffington Post article sought insight from different individuals as to the different mistakes people make during the divorce process.
One mistake that people make is that they let their emotions get the best of them. Sometimes a small issue in a divorce can escalate quickly because we let our emotions run wild. It's important to remember that the divorce process is a legal one, not an emotional one.
Those same emotions can lead parents to say negative things about their ex in front of their children. This is a mistake that is difficult to avoid sometimes, but abstaining from badmouthing your ex is important. Talking negatively about your ex can leave your children feeling guilty, sad, confused and depressed.
On the topic of kids, a mediator explained that she didn't get enough information about her parent's divorce when she was little. Because there was a lack of communication about the separation, she worried about their feelings and did not want to be a burden on them. She recommends setting up family meetings regularly to discuss the divorce and its impact.
Another mistake that some parents make is not wanting to co-parent. A professor of family social science recommends looking at your ex through the eyes of your kids. It can help parents be supportive co-parents. In our next post we will continue discussing this topic.