In this post we continue our discussion of keeping costs down when going through divorce. A big part of that equation is to keep emotions under control when navigating child custody issues. For example, fighting over very small issues, such as specific pickup times, can make the divorce fees rack up very quickly. The same goes for not being flexible. If spouses fight over the smallest things, such as minimal payments for children, they will end up spending more money in legal fees than they would have on the actual issue that they are fighting over.
It's also very important to be financially ready for what a divorce will bring. This may mean sitting down with a financial planner who works with divorcees in order to really assess your financial situation. Going into a divorce without understanding the financial ramifications of it can result in less-than-favorable outcomes.
Finally, it's good to remember that your lawyer is not your therapist. While they may feel like one at times, since they are helping you through one of the hardest times of your life, it's good to remember that they are there to help you through the legal aspects, not the emotional. If you need help coming to terms with why your marriage ended, it may be better to seek counseling or talk to a close family member or friend.
Some of these tips are, of course, easier said than done. While one spouse might be very willing to negotiate and keep emotions out of the process, the other may not be on the same page. Either way, it is important to make sure you are comfortable with the decisions you are making in order to come out financially stable in the end.