In our last post we began a discussion about the decision to file for divorce. It's undoubtedly a very hard one but in the end, it can definitely be well worth it.
Once you get past your fears of hurting your children and having to deal with grief, it's important to realize that there really are some strong benefits when it comes to deciding to divorce.
One of those is improved health. Anyone who has ever been in a negative or abusive relationship knows how emotionally difficult that can be. It can wear you thin in every aspect of your life. In a recent article, a psychologist pointed out that people who live in "chronic marital distress" often live in a constant fight-or-flight state. This can lead to unhealthy eating, a lack of sleep, memory problems, lack of self-care and even weight gain. There has even been some research suggesting a person's lifespan may be shortened if they are in an abusive or chronically negative relationship. Being able to leave this type of marriage is an important step toward caring for yourself.
Finally, although it may be the last thing on your mind after divorce, the new-found freedom can eventually lead you to find fulfilling love. If an individual takes time to learn about themselves and consider the characteristics of their ex-spouse, it may help them understand what they really want in their next spouse. Loneliness should never be a reason to stay in a miserable marriage. As long as you stay in your marriage, you may be denying yourself the right to find true fulfilling love.