In our last post we covered a handful of "don'ts" related to child custody during the holidays. On the positive end, there are definitely a few things parents can do to make their kids' holidays brighter.
It goes without saying that you should put your kids first in any decision you make that includes them. While this may seem like common sense, the stress and busyness of the holidays can sometimes lead parents to forget this concept. It can also lead to emotional responses when kids are just trying to be kids. Sometimes kids will not want to leave the house because they want to play with new toys or they may not want to go visit Aunt So-And-So.
Remember this very important concept: you are the adult and they are the children. They are counting on you to act your age so that they can act their age as well and enjoy the holidays.
Next, if you haven't started the divorce process yet, consider using a divorce method that is child-focused. If at all possible, try not to drag your children through litigation during the holidays.
Finally, whether you are already divorced, still in the process or have just brought up the idea to your spouse, consider spending the holidays together. It might seem like an uncomfortable concept, but this is where the best interests of the children come into play again. If you have a decent enough relationship that you can do the holidays together, it may be a wonderful situation for your children.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Divorcing? A Few Dos and Don'ts to Help Keep the Holidays Bright for Your Kids," Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Dec. 2, 2014