Whether it be Hanukkah, Christmas or New Year's, the end-of-the-year holidays can be a very difficult time for couples going through divorce. It can be that much harder if children are involved. It's not a surprise that during this somewhat-stressful time of year some parents may act in ways that are not necessarily in the best interests of their children.
For example, some parents try to out-gift each other. It's a good idea to discuss openly about your gift ideas for the children so that one spouse doesn't end up buying something significantly lower in value than the other spouse. This may be especially true if one parent earns a lot more than the other parent.
Parents may also feel like it's necessary to "shuttle" your kids from home to home. While it is important to see relatives, sometimes there may be better solutions to spending time with loved ones than jumping from home to home. In the same breath, parents should try to be relaxed during the holidays when it comes to time schedules. Sometimes it may be hard to get kids to leave the house after they open their new presents, so try to be understanding if your ex-spouse shows up a bit late with your children.
While there are many things that parents shouldn't do during the holidays, there are definitely a handful of things that are beneficial to do in order to keep your children's best interests in mind. We will discuss these in our next post.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Divorcing? A Few Dos and Don'ts to Help Keep the Holidays Bright for Your Kids," Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Dec. 2, 2014