Because of what we do, it makes sense that we often talk about the actual divorce process in this blog. But once in a while, it's also important to look toward the future and discuss how to best handle different situations post-divorce.
One of the biggest concerns that parents have after divorce is how to introduce new people into their lives and how to combine families. A recent news article looked at a somewhat newly married couple and their blended family. The couple have five kids altogether - three from the husband and two from the wife. They range in age from 11 to 17. They recently moved into a house that was big enough for everyone in their combined family, which apparently has made everyone happy.
The parents give one key piece of advice that can benefit those in a similar situation: "Focus on your home only." In other words, parents have to realize that they cannot control what happens at the home of their ex-spouse, but they definitely can control the environment in their own home.
This means working together with your new spouse to create a stable, loving environment where each child feels that their needs are being met. This of course may take time, so it's important to let each child adjust to the new family dynamic. When parents work to give each child equal attention and lead by example, the blended family experience can be a very positive one. It may not always be easy, but in the end it can definitely be worth the effort.
Source: The Huffington Post, "The Best Advice For Parents Blending Their Families," Brittany Wong, Dec. 5, 2014