Many different types of people file for divorce. Some are extremely empathetic and even too kind, while others know how to put their foot down or are even downright narcissistic. If you fall into the first category, it’s important to remember that no matter how kind you are, you need to protect yourself during the divorce process by learning when to say “no.”
When it’s time to file for divorce, the first step many Florida residents take is reaching out to an attorney. Building a solid relationship with your attorney can mean having someone with experience and legal knowledge on your side. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to agree with everything your lawyer recommends. It’s important that a lawyer understands where you are coming from and what you are looking for in terms of child custody, child support, asset division and alimony. The more upfront and honest you are with your lawyer, the easier it will be for a lawyer to help you through the divorce process.
Another issue that may come up where you have to stand up for yourself is during alimony or interim alimony discussions. Interim alimony is given while the divorce is being finalized so that a spouse can maintain their current lifestyle. While it may be tempting to take any offer that is presented, it may not benefit you in the long run. Take time to evaluate your financial situation and don’t shy away from explaining how much it costs for you to live comfortably.
Finally, some may think it’s a good idea to back down during custody agreements for the sake of their child. They want to avoid any drama that may result from these discussions. But it’s important to remember that accepting a custody arrangement that will not work long term may end up being very stressful for you and also disappointing for your children.
Source: Huffington Post, “Top 3 Times When It’s Okay to Say “No” in Divorce Proceedings,” Brendan Lyle, October 8, 2014