In our last post we started a discussion about how to keep the peace during your divorce. As we mentioned, although it is easier said than done, it is definitely worth the effort.
Another important thing to consider doing is to work on yourself. What that means is learning to take responsibility for your part in the marital issues. Although it is easy to blame your spouse, a marriage takes two people who both contribute in some way to the issues between them. Understanding what part you played in the issues can help make sure that it doesn't happen again.
The last two tips are quite helpful but are not necessarily easy for some individuals to do. It's probably not the first time you've heard it: do not nitpick. There was probably a lot of that going on in the marriage in one form or another, so try not to bring it into the divorce. It's very easy to continue nitpicking someone that you are not a fan of. The best route is to realize that doing so does not benefit anyone.
Finally, and maybe most importantly, stop hoping that your ex will understand you. If it wasn't happening during the marriage, it's likely to not happen during the divorce. Acceptance is key here - realize that they will likely never see your point of view and try to put your energy into something else.
Divorce is rarely an easy process, but each person involved has an opportunity to make it easier by following these types of tips.
Source: Family Share, "Tips to ensure a peaceful divorce," Aaron Anderson, accessed Nov. 25, 2014