Most people expect their divorce to be anything but peaceful. It makes sense, since many marriages fall apart due to an inability to communicate or get along for a variety of reasons. But just because your marriage was filled with turmoil, doesn't necessarily mean your divorce has to go down the same mucky path.
Recently a therapist detailed a few ways that couples who plan to divorce can keep the peace during the divorce process. One tip that many have probably heard is to learn to forgive. It is much easier said than done, but in the long run it will benefit you. Forgiving your ex for the things he or she did can help you let go of painful emotions and allow you to move forward even if you never received an apology.
Another key tip is to have mutual respect for each other. Again, it's one of those things that are easier said than done. Most people can imagine that there was likely a lowered level of respect during the marriage, so how could you ever respect each other after the marriage ends? The way to do it is to take baby steps. You may not respect everything your ex has done or does, but you can likely remember a few things that they were good at during your marriage. Find those things and hold on to them as a way to fuel mutual respect toward one another.
In our next post we will continue this discussion in hopes of providing our readers with a few specific ways to keep their divorce peaceful.
Source: Family Share, "Tips to ensure a peaceful divorce," Aaron Anderson, accessed Nov. 25, 2014