Although most people seek out divorce in hopes of having a brighter and happier future, the actual process of divorcing can make your stomach turn. For a lot of divorcees, the most difficult part of the split has to do with child custody. The thought of having less time with a child can often keep a person from divorcing for months or even years.
A recent article points out that while fear might creep in during child custody discussions, there are a few steps you can take in order to calm your nerves.
First of all, it is really important to have a strong support system. That support system may include your attorney, your close family and friends, and possibly a support group. Being able to discuss the divorce matters with people who have been through it can often be calming. The experiences of other people can help you realize that everything is going to be okay.
With that being said, because you aren’t the only person who has ever divorced, those who work in the industry (attorneys, judges, social workers, etc) have seen it all. While it may seem extremely emotional and dramatic to you, it likely is not to them. Your ex might try to use your past against you, but those involved have heard it all time and time again. They know what really matters, and it’s not likely to be that you tried drugs when you were a teenager. They will be able to see past the drama and concentrate on the best interests of the child.
Source: The Huffington Post, “4 Ways to Fight Your Fears During a Custody Battle,” Jessica Woodbury, Oct. 27, 2014