In our last post we discussed the questions a person may ask themselves when making the decision to divorce. While the first part of this discussion centered on your feelings about the marriage, another important aspect to consider is how you feel about the divorce.
Are you ready to make a new relationship as co-parents instead of as husband and wife? As much as you may never want to talk to your spouse again, when two individuals have children together, that relationship will always exist on some level. It will be important to form a reasonable and drama-free relationship with your ex in order to support the well-being of your children.
Speaking of their well-being, it’s also important to understand that you will need to set boundaries in terms of how you interact with your children. Your child is not your best friend and they should not be burdened with the inner workings of your relationship with your ex. It is important to let kids be kids.
Finally, are you ready for the legal part of divorce? While emotions will play a big role, as any lawyer can tell you, the actual divorce process is similar to a business transaction. It’s important to educate yourself on what is to come by working with an experienced lawyer. Take your time to interview a handful of lawyers in order to find the best fit for you. Divorce is not just the end of a relationship. It’s also a complicated system of agreements and decisions that will impact your future.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Questions You Need To Ask Before You Decide To Divorce,” Dr. Phil McGraw, Oct. 24, 2014