The decision to divorce may perhaps be one of the most difficult decisions you will ever make in your life. Sometimes there are a lot of what-ifs that keep us hoping for a resolution or for an eventual fix to our marital problems. A lot of people question whether right now is the right time. In many cases, they may even talk themselves out of divorce because of a variety of reasons.
One question that an individual may want to ask themselves as they contemplate divorce is “have I done everything I can to fix this marriage?” In many cases that is a difficult question to answer because solving marriage problems takes the effort of both people. You may have gone to therapy, read books on marital success and even spent time analyzing your role in the relationship. But if none of that has made things better, it may be time for divorce.
During the process of analyzing your feelings, it can be helpful to consider different issues: When did the relationship start to go bad? What is the cost or emotional toll of staying in this marriage? What do you really want?
Beyond that, with the help of a therapist, you may consider thinking about what emotions are tied to this decision. Are you feeling hurt or scared? Do you feel angry? In general, are you still in love with your spouse? These are all things to consider when making the decision to file for divorce.
In our next post we will continue this discussion.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Questions You Need To Ask Before You Decide To Divorce,” Dr. Phil McGraw, Oct. 24, 2014