As summer creeps up, this week we are concentrating on the topic of kids. Divorce can bring many challenges when it comes to parenting that can be hard to anticipate. If a Florida resident is newly divorced with young children, they might not have thought about how they will spend their first summer break. The long break is usually the time parents schedule summer camps or trips to see relatives. When divorce is brought into the mix, these plans can often get very complicated.
The sooner you and your ex-spouse start planning, the better. The word of the day is communication. Not only do you need to communicate with your ex about expectations, wants and needs, but you also need to discuss these concerns with your children. You may not be able to do everything they want, but it is important that children's opinions are heard. It's also good to keep in mind that parents should avoid using their children to communicate with their ex.
Once plans are made, parents should communicate with anyone else who may play an important role during the summer activities. For example, if you are newly divorced, it wouldn’t hurt to tell a camp director about it. That way, if your child is having a hard time adjusting to being away from you, the staff at the camp can offer additional support.
Communication is key during the upcoming summer months. Structure can play a big role in helping your kids cope through the ups and downs of divorce.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Start Summer Planning Now,” Marie Hartwell-Walker, April 3, 2014