We have written a lot on our blog about the steps necessarily for a successful divorce. But once in a while, readers need to be reminded of the ‘do not dos’ of divorce. After all, it can sometimes be easy to get caught up in bad behavior during the process because it can be so emotionally overwhelming. Before you do something that you regret, take the time to consider the things you should avoid doing.
This may seem like the opposite of everything you hear, but it’s a good idea to limit how much you involve your family and friends. Of course, no one expects you to go through divorce alone, but it’s sometimes good to keep a neutral perspective by not letting the emotions of others affect you. It’s not uncommon for relatives, such as a mother or father, to have very strong opinions, usually supporting your side. While this may feel great, don’t let it distract you from making decisions during the divorce.
Speaking of which, decision making ultimately leads to a faster divorce process. It’s a good idea not to delay your proceedings. Not only does it get more expensive, but it can also put a large gap between you and your ex, which can lead to more tension.
Keeping the tension at a minimum is a great approach, if possible. Sometimes that may mean biting your tongue or not engaging in new fights. During the divorce process, the two of you are still relying on each other, so collaboration may mean a positive outcome for both of you.
In our next post we’ll cover a handful of other don’ts to keep in mind that will keep you from hindering your divorce process.
Source: The Huffington Post, “10 Things to Remember When You are Getting a Divorce,” Jim Halfens, Feb. 25, 2014