Before you know it, it'll be Valentine's Day - that yearly holiday that brings chocolate, flowers and a slew of misconceptions about divorced and single people. It's not uncommon for friends or family to get into a "poor you" mentality and try to avoid talking about the holiday with you altogether, but as many divorced people know, being single doesn't mean being sad or lonely.
While we're on the topic of misconceptions about divorce, it's not uncommon to hear that a divorced person obviously didn't try hard enough to keep their marriage together. The mentality is that they probably took the easy way out.
Another thought that some people have about divorce is that it has to be acrimonious. The idea that ex-spouses might be friendly or co-parent in a respectful way seems “weird” to them. On the opposite end of the spectrum, some people think divorce is super easy – just get a lawyer, sign some papers and you’re done.
Lastly, there’s a misconception that is all too common: it won’t happen to them. While a marriage might be at its best now, there’s no way of knowing how it will be five or even 20 years down the line. It’s safe to say that no one goes into marriage expecting to divorce, but being prepared for the possibility is a smart thing to do. Those couples that can look beyond the “warm fuzzies” of love and prepare themselves by signing a prenuptial agreement (or even a postnuptial agreement if already married) may be better able to face the reality of divorce, if it ever comes.
Source: The Huffington Post, “21 Ridiculous Things People Believe About Divorce,” Jan. 10, 2014