The beginning of the year brings a rush of divorces, but typically it's not because a spouse suddenly had a change of heart. In a lot of cases, an individual has been planning to divorce for quite a while and may just be waiting out the holiday season to do so.
This scenario makes sense, considering the magical aspect of the holidays for Florida parents and children alike. As tough as a marriage might be, a spouse does not want to bring up divorce during this magical time, especially if children are involved. But once the new year hits and the holiday decorations come down, many individuals make their move.
There’s still almost a month left before the new year and that means one more month of keeping those emotions inside. So, how can a person deal with the stress? First, make sure to not cause fights or bicker over small details. The whole point of keeping this secret is to avoid fighting. Secondly, take time to prepare for the upcoming divorce by collecting all the necessary paperwork, such as paycheck stubs, tax returns and statements, which you will need for the process. This may also be a good time to reach out to a lawyer to assess your situation and get more information.
Also, give yourself a break. You may have been the one to throw the holiday party for the past five years, but it doesn’t mean you have to do it this year. And finally, don’t let your guilt control you. If you do, you might end up buying pricy gifts you can’t afford or make promises you know you won’t keep.
The decision to bring up divorce is a very individual one. For some, the wait may be too much, but for many others, ruining their holiday cheer is a price they are not willing to pay.
Source: HuffingtonPost.com, ”That special time of year: Holidays mean waiting to divorce,” Morghan Leia Richardson, November 19, 2013