South Florida divorce lawyers and family law attorneys are watching as Miami Heat star player Dwyane Wade seeks to suspend ex-wife Siohvaughn Funches-Wade’s visitation with their 5- and 10-year-old boys. This follows her arrest on charges of two counts of attempted child abduction, two counts of unlawful visitation interference and one count of resisting arrest.
In short, it seems Ms. Funches-Wade wanted to change their parenting plan – but went about it the wrong way.
Below is advice for those dissatisfied with their parenting plan…
Never involve the children. They are not mature enough to understand why the parents are arguing over custody. They want things to be “fair” and “equal” and the fighting between parents places them in the middle and only lowers their self-esteem. It may also force them to take sides against the parent they perceive as attacking the other parent or to defend the parent they see as wronged.
Never take unilateral action counter to the parenting plan. If you need a change from what the parenting plan states, often times asking nicely yields the result you want. If the other person says no, you can ask again. But to take unilateral action by attempting to resolve your own problem without asking the court to intervene – known as “self-help” – can and often will harm you in the end.
Be reasonable. Always keep the kids’ needs and emotions in mind.
The bottom line is that if you signed an agreement, you must abide by it. If you are offered an agreement you don’t want to abide by or don’t agree with, don’t sign it – and let the court determine what is in the children’s best interests.