The New York Times had an article on divorced couples who get together as a family unit – with their children – for the holidays. This is exactly what family law judges and conscientious divorce attorneys are looking for during the holidays among divorced, divorcing or separated parents.
It’s called “co-parenting,” and occurs among parents who put their child first – and not their own selfish angers and resentments. Too few families can do this. Most want to exclude the other party and his or her family over the holidays.
In fact, settlement agreements historically designate that the children go to one parent one year and the other parent the next year for these holidays. While this makes it very easy for parents to plan and know when they have their children during the holidays, it is less fun for the children.
All kids want their parents to stop fighting and simply be okay to hang out on a major holiday at a big family event. That’s because both parents are special and loved by the children.
Parents often need a reminder that just because their feelings have changed about their spouse or ex, the children’s feelings have not. This article is a great reminder of this. Read the entire story here.